Some people mistakenly believe that only sexually unsatisfied people use sex toys in their relationships. This could not be further from the truth! In fact, it may be just the opposite. You need a certain amount of trust and intimacy to use sex toys with a partner and doing so can actually enhance your sexual experiences together and increase your intimacy. Using toys in your intimate relationship can bring out different aspects of your own and your partner’s sexuality; the fun, playful side, the lusty intense side, or the explorative tender aspects.
Just as personal pleasure objects are an exceptional tool to explore your own sexuality, likes and dislikes, they can also provide this valuable insight to your partner, first hand. By letting your partner explore with a sex toy, or you utilize the toy with your partner enhancing the experience, it will allow him or her to learn more of your particular turn ons and offs, and quite possibly take your sexual relationship to new heights. Incorporating the use of sex toys with your partner can be a fun, positive, intimacy enhancing experience.
The Best Types of Sex Toys for Couples
There is no one best type of sex toy for couples. Any vibrator, dildo or personal massager can be incorporated in love making with a partner. The usual culprits, vaginal vibrators and dildos when used with a partner can be exciting and powerful or loving and intimate. These can be used as foreplay, or for the climax act in countless ways. Use your imagination; exploring is all part of the fun.
Personal massagers, vibrators designed to be used externally, are wonderful for erogenous zones for both the male and female as well as body parts not normally associated with sex but non the less erogenous when accidentally stumbled upon. These types of toys are excellent for those longer, luxurious sessions where every touch can be savored and added to the building of pleasure. You may just find areas of yourself or your partner that you never before considered arousing.
Last, but not least, there are a few types of vibrators designed for use during intercourse. One is a variation on the penis ring with an added vibrator to stimulate the woman’s clitoris during intercourse or penetration with another sex toy. The other type has a revolutionary design affording dual stimulation of the g-spot and clitoris and is designed to be used during penetration by a penis or other sex toy. This type is wildly popular. Let’s face it, what women would not enjoy being stimulated in a minimum of 3 erogenous zones at once (I say minimum because her hands as well as her partners’ hands and mouth are still completely free to further stimulate).
Where sexuality is concerned I believe you should not limit yourself, even (or especially) if you are in a committed relationship. Explore new things together and discover new realms of pleasure!
One last word for those new to the toy with a partner experience, go slowly, use lots of a good water based organic lube, and most of all remember to have fun. If for some reason incorporating a toy does not go smoothly the first time, let it go and try again another time. Most firsts are a bit bumpy; intimate experiences, riding a bike without training wheels, roller skating. Most things need a bit of practice to become comfortable. Adding sex toys to your intimate relationship may very well be worth stepping out of your comfort zone. I find a big part of life is laughing together at our stumbles as much as basking in our triumphs.