Your Partner And Sex Toys

Many people talk about sex toys, some just snicker, some even scoff, while others thoroughly enjoy them. There are some amazing sex toys on the market for men and women. Maybe you feel ashamed or dirty just thinking about masturbation. There’s no law that says you need to have sex alone; you can share your toys. Besides, didn’t your mother always tell you to share your toys? Sharing sex toys with your partner, experimenting, and learning about what pleasures you most is exciting.

Sometimes people that already use vibrators would like to use them with their partners, but are afraid their partner would be offended. Or, there may be others that tried to share their toys with a partner, but received negative reactions. Still others would love to experience them, but are too embarrassed to shop for one.

Still, it’s doubtful that most people would deny that sex toys don’t feel good! Sex aids can set the stage to spice up your love life and bring excitement to the bedroom. It’s doubtful, that anyone would dispute that orgasms feel fabulous! And, sex toys might help you have better, more powerful and intense orgasms.

Sometimes, couples get bored with their sex life, at some point in their relationship. Adding enhancement toys can bring fun back into the bedroom. Sharing new sexual experiences and incorporating new things to experience together, can offer different intimate sharing. Watching your partner’s expressions or responses while using a toy can be extremely stimulating.

Some women have difficulty reaching orgasm without clitoral stimulation, which can be difficult to do during intercourse. And, some men have problems maintaining erections for as long as they’d like. Sex toys might be the answer to both these concerns.

Perhaps these reasons are enough to justify adding sex enhancers to your playtime. But, even though many propose they are open-minded and adventurous, they might be unreceptive to trying new things, such as sex toys. Sometimes, the best course to take is to discuss your feelings and desires with your partner. Maybe a bit of reassurance and convincing would be all it takes to begin a new chapter in your loving relationship.

Many people are fearful about using with vibrators or other sexual aids. Sometimes people misconstrue playtime and fantasy. They might think you’re insinuating they are inadequate. Most likely, you won’t know your partner’s feelings or reservations about these things until you open the discussion with him or her.

Some people think only perverts, sluts, or freaks use sex toys. And, yes, perverts, sluts, and freaks use them, but so do doctors, lawyers, secretaries, housewives, accountants, and other professionals. They don’t make you weird; they just make you orgasm.

Mostly, sex toys are used in solo-sex, but are just as much fun when shared with a partner. Sex toys do not mean there’s something wrong with your relationship. In fact, using sex toys can actually strengthen your relationship, and add fun to your playtime. Sometimes a partner might believe the sex toy may replace them, or that you prefer the toys over them. While it is undeniable that a vibrating penis that brings you to orgasm every time, is not enjoyable, does not indicate you desire your partner less. And, sex toys do not provide everything. For instance, you can’t cuddle or feel connected to a vibrator when the playtime is over. When the experience of sexual release is finished with the vibrator, it’s over and done. Always reassure your partner that nothing can replace the tenderness and intimacy shared between two people.

Another concern about sex toys is that some people might think their ability to orgasm with a partner may be diminished. Although, intense orgasms can be experienced with the toys, they cannot take the place of a real person. People have used their fingers and hands to masturbate since they were young, however most still prefer partner sex versus solo sex.

If your lover cannot accept usage of a sex toy during sexual playtime, don’t force your partner. Assure him or her that you don’t ‘need’ a toy, but that you’re curious and would like to experiment with them. Intimacy is to be enjoyed. And, respect for each other is very important. Get your adult sex toy today.

Variety Is The Spice Of Life

The variety of sex toys is surprising. Sex toys vary from purely male or purely female sex toys to toys that can be used by both sexes. There are also some sex toys that can also be classified as sex aids or marital aids.

The Purpose Of Sex Toys

Some sex toys aid the man’s erection, stimulate the female genitals to become more sensitive or provide a different feel to ‘normal’ sex. Other sex toys provide an ‘environment’ for variations in sex, for example so called orgy bed sheets. Sometimes they are used to help a person who has difficulty with unaided sex to achieve sexual satisfaction. However most sex toys provide a new way to directly stimulate the male or female genitals to achieve sexual satisfaction.

Using sex toys can provide new experiences and variation in the sexual experience. It can also provide a fantasy element for enhancing or revitalizing a relationship.

The usual expectation is that a sex toy provides direct stimulation of the genitals in foreplay and/or during sexual intercourse or as a means to obtain orgasm through only the stimulation provided by the sex toy.

Types of Sex Toys

Vibrating Sex Toys

Probably the most well known sex toys are ‘vibrators’ which, as the name suggests, provide stimulation of the genitals using vibration. They are mainly used to stimulate the clitoris, but may also be used to stimulate any other part of the female body or that of a man’s.

The simplest of these are pencil or wand shaped (though normally thicker than a pencil). They often have an internal battery (or two) which powers a small electric motor. Sometimes the battery pack and controller are external and connected to the vibrator by a wire. This motor is fitted with a small, out of balance, weight attached to the shaft. As this weight rotates it throws the motor and vibrator into a small circular movement which causes the vibration you feel.

With a vibrator that has a controller, as the power is increased the speed of the motor increases and with it both the rate and strength of vibration. Both the strength and rate of vibration effects how stimulating you find the sex toy. The best effect may not be as strong and as fast as possible. The optimum settings may well change as your degree of excitement builds. To get the best results it is worth buying a vibrator which is controllable.

Different vibrators will have different characteristics and you may well find you prefer one combination much more than another and your preference may even vary depending on which part of your body you are stimulating.

More recently electronic vibrator controllers have appeared which provide not only the static control of power/speed but also allow you to select patterns of power pulses and surges. These can be very effective.

There are also other vibrating sex toys such as butterfly stimulators and vibrating penis rings.

Other Powered Sex Toys

There are some sex toys that use other ways to provide mechanical stimulation. These usually depend on a motor that makes the sex toy continually change its shape which provides a sort of rotational movement or makes it move back and forth. The back and forth movements are sometimes powered by an air pump rather than a motor. The movements have been used to create, for example, mechanical licking tongues, vibrators that ‘penetrate’ the vagina and mouth simulators to give a man a ‘blow job’.

On a bigger scale and much more expensive, there are ‘sex machines’ that incorporate thrusting and vibrating dildos.

Combination Sex Toys

So far we have covered vibrating, moving and thrusting sex toys. As you may have guessed these are all offered in a bewildering array of combinations.

A common combination in many ‘Rabbit Style’ vibrators is clitoral stimulation using vibrations and vaginal stimulation using movement and sometimes a thrusting motion as well.

Many sex toys add varying textures to their surfaces; a dildo or vibrator may have ridges or soft spikes or a rippled shape.

Sensation Change Sex Toys

Some sex toys rather than provide vibrating or moving stimulation, change the feel of sex.

For instance there are a variety of sleeves to put over the penis to provide different sensations for both partners while engaged in penetrative sex.

There are rings that squeeze the base of the penis and/or tighten the scrotum that assist the man’s erection and also changes his sensations. There are penis extenders and thickeners which may give a man’s partner greater sensations during penetration.

There are a wide variety of lubricants that can significantly change the feel of sex.

There are PVC and Polyurethane bed sheets that are water and oil proof that can be used for slippery or messy sex.

Why Use A Sex Toy?

A good question is: why do people use a sex toy? Surely fingers, tongues, penises, clitorises and vaginas etc all provide great sexual stimulation and enjoyment.

Well, apart from therapeutic uses (eg erection assistance), sex toys can drive the imagination (being taken by a machine), provide variety (new ways to do old things), vary the stimulating effects in otherwise normal sex (penis sleeves) and some can provide experiences not possible with ‘normal body parts’ (particularly vibrating sex toys and electro-stimulation).

Where To Start

If you have not tried a sex toy before and don’t yet have an idea of what you might like, try one of the simpler vibrators first. Most probably you will enjoy the experience and then start to wonder what other delights can be found with more sophisticated vibrators and other sex toys …

If you then find you do enjoy sex toys try out a few others and find what suits you. Above all, have fun trying them out!

Sharing Your Sex Toys

Today, couples all round the world are trying hard to bring back the lost love and affection in their relationship. Life today is so stressed and complex that we end up unknowingly putting our sex life on the back burner. Sex ends up becoming just a routine and monotonous activity and before you know it, this lack of excitement leads to irreparable damages. Thanks to the introduction of new and advanced sex toys in the market, a lot of couples are rediscovering their sensual sides. If you opt for using sex toys with your partner, you are bound to get more benefits and sexual pleasure than anyone can think of. Contrary to popular belief, these toys are not just means of entertainment in the bedroom. These simple devices can bring the couple closer and help them bond like never before.

Sex toys are now available in a whole wide range of materials, shapes, sizes and purposes. The choice of these machines depends on the preference and the comfort level that the partners share. While enjoying sex toys with your partner, it is necessary that you make your partner feel comfortable and relaxed. The process of the introduction of the toy into your bedroom might be a little tricky but once you get started with using it, the results are pretty worth it. Generally, the partner who suggests the use of such toys is the one who initiates the process of lovemaking with the same.

Regain Your Sexual Edge

The best part about using sex toys with the special someone is that these toys unleash the sexy sides of your partner, which you might have never seen before. The use of such toys encourages both partners to shed their inhibitions and enjoy their sex session to the optimum. The improvement in the physical intimacy of the couple reflects in all other aspects of their life, making their relationship a lot stronger than before.

The concept of sex toys is not restricted to vibrators. There are a lot of other manual as well as mechanical devices that are available which make the act of lovemaking absolutely blissful. Couples who are not in favor of using such devices on their body can also make use of erotic lingerie and games, which are an equally effective way of enjoying sex toys with your partner. It is said that variety is the spice of life and this statement holds true to the art of having sex also. The more innovative in bed you are, the more is the closeness between you and your partner.

Sex Toys In The Bedroom

Now that Fifty Shades of Grey is so popular, all of the media is talking about sex and sex toys. Are you curious about trying them but are too embarrassed? Are you unsure whether they are right for you and your relationship?

The following are some common misconceptions about adult toys:

Most People Don’t Use Sex Toys

Wrong! Many respectable people use adult toys, including people most would consider perfectly normal. Using an adult toy doesn’t make you “odd” or doesn’t say anything negative about your relationship. It just helps you have fun more fun in the bedroom! You don’t have to share with your friends, your boss or your mother that you use toys unless anyone unless you want to.

Sex Toys Are Just For Masturbation

While adult toys are commonly used for masturbation, many couples enjoy using toys together, whether they are female or male or heterosexual or homosexual. Usually these couples are comfortable trying new things together, are open-minded, and trusting.

Your partner will feel inadequate if you start using a sex toy.

Are you nervous that if you bring an adult toy into the bedroom, it will hurt your partner’s feelings? An adult toy can give you an orgasm, but it can’t tell you how much they love you or rub your back. An object is not a substitute for a real person. If your lover has this fear, be sensitive and stroke his or her ego a little bit. As with most relationship issues, good communication is key.

Using sex toys can be physically dangerous.

NO WAY!

In fact, adult toys can have very positive effects on your sexual health.

For example, many doctors and therapists recommend adult toys to women who have trouble reaching orgasm; if you suffer from painful sex, vibrators can stimulate blood flow; all women can benefit from kegel exercisers or kegel balls to tone the pelvic floor muscles; prostate massagers reduce the risk of prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction and frequent nighttime urination. Lastly, orgasms help you live longer, block pain and, some say, look younger. Who wouldn’t want that?

If you use sex toys too much, you won’t have an orgasm with your partner.

If your partner is afraid you’ll replace him or her with your favorite toy, promise him or her that you’ll always keep things different in the bedroom: try different positions, new toys, light bondage and fantasy play.

If your relationship is healthy, there’s no reason why you should need a sex toy.

You are so lucky to have a healthy relationship. However, who wouldn’t want to make their relationship even stronger and closer by sharing a new experience? If your lover is insistent about not wanting to use an adult toy to spice up your sex life, assure him or her that you don’t need an adult toy either, you’d just like to try one.

You or your partner is afraid of feeling pleasure

Pleasure is a birthright. Everyone deserves it and should have it. Own your sexuality and do what works for you. After all, orgasms make you healthier and happier.

Buying sex toys can be really embarrassing especially because they look gross and scary.

You are right. Now, thanks to the Internet, you can shop in the comfort of your own home without judgement. Most adult toys make you feel uncomfortable because they are usually phallic or cheesey or are so loud that you think your children or neighbor might hear what you are up to. Luxury sex toys are just the opposite. You might not even realize that they are high quality adult toys because they look like art. They are now so discreet and quiet that no one will know what you are up to.

These arguments might make sense and work for most people but might not work for you. If that’s the case, here are 3 more reasons to try out sex toys:

Pleasure = Sex Toys

Who is not a fan of orgasms? You might be too tired or too busy to have sex, but there’s no denying that orgasms feel good. Adult toys can help you have more orgasms. What’s wrong with that?

Sex Toys Are Fun

Whether you have been with your lover for a few months or many years, things might be a little stale and you want to try something new. That’s OK – you are not alone! Adult toys can add excitement to the bedroom and keep things from getting mundane. Using an adult toy together can bring you closer; sharing new experiences together can be very intimate.

Sex Toys Make Sex Better

Did you know that about 30% of women actually have an orgasm during sex? Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm. Meanwhile, many men have trouble sustaining their erections as long as they would like, whether it be because of age, medication or stress. That’s what adults toys are for!

If you are now ready to start using adult toys, here are a few suggestions to get started:

Start slow by starting out with something small. Start with a small toy and show your lover that the toy is all about adding more pleasure and excitement to the bedroom. For example, if you want to try a vibrator, start with something that’s small and discreet, like a finger vibrator or vibrating egg. If you want to try light bondage, try a blindfold or holding your lover’s hands above their head during foreplay.

When you are ready, work your way up to something bigger and bolder.

Above all else, remember that communication is the key to any healthy relationship. If you can’t share your feelings or desires, something is not right. Intimacy and fun are the main goal. It is entirely up to you to decide whether that means with or without sex toys, but experimentation never hurt anyone!